I hope you had a wonderful Memorial Day Weekend! This was the first time in years, that I was able to go up north with my family and enjoy some good ol’ fashioned quality time by a lake in the woods. There’s just something about it that is so refreshing to the soul.
I have a couple more insights from the Colour Conference that I want to share with you these next couple of weeks. Today, I want us to talk about body image and value.
I know, I know, as American women, I feel like we’ve been talking about these topics since we were in 5th grade. But, I think we can all agree that these are two areas that we struggle with at various times in our lives. For instance, this last year has been one that has been FILLED with change for me: graduating from school again and ending my life as a student, new jobs (yep, multiple new jobs which means new co-workers, new routines, etc.), just trying to figure out what to do with my life (can I get an Amen?!), several traumatic incidents with close friends and heeps more. Needless to say, when I go through that many transitions in a short period of time, my natural way of dealing with things is to try and preserve as much energy as possible and to kind of shut down. Maybe you’re the type that hits the gym 7 days a week in the midst of so much uncertainty, but not me. 🙂 This led to me putting on 20 lbs. Now, for some of you that’s not a big deal and you don’t have issues with your weight. But this time, it’s been seriously annoying for me and I’ve seen just how easy it is to let our body image and value get intertwined.
For you, maybe it’s not your weight, but it’s your height, or your hair color, or your eyes, or your hips, or that you’re skinny, or have big boobs or small boobs (yep, I said it), or whatever. Anyway, as women, this is such a common issue that we need to face it, especially as leaders. We have to get it settled within us that our value does not lie in how we look (and seriously, you and I are beautiful any way, so we also need to come to terms with it). See, our thinking is determined by what we see, what we see is determined by what we look at, what we look at is determined by what we perceive and what we perceive is determined by what we hear. Yeah, that’s kind of deep, but bottom line, when you look in the mirror, what do you hear in your mind? Is it a constant stream of thoughts about what you wish you could change, about what you think is beautiful (and you don’t see it)? I confess that I definitely have days like that. But can we all agree to stop those thoughts from rolling in when they start? BECAUSE they truly are lies. I’m not kidding. You.Are.Beautiful. Bottom line. And if that’s hard for you (like it is me some days) to accept, then this is an area that I really want to challenge you to work through. Because let’s face it, when we don’t feel beautiful, we do not live our lives to the fullest. There’s parts of us that we hold back, that we hide. And the instant we are hiding anything, that’s when we know we aren’t living out fully who God made us to be.
Now, for the spiritual side of this: value is determined by what God thinks and says. Period. And you my dear, ARE VALUABLE! See, your true identity comes from who your maker is and the content you hold. Gucci can get away with selling you a purse for $300 because, well it’s made by Gucci. You can get a look-a-like purse in New York for $40. But we know it’s just not quite the same and we’d never pay $300 for it because it wasn’t made by Gucci. 🙂 Well, your Maker happens to be God and if you didn’t know already, God only makes the most precious and valuable pieces of work around, not too mention the fact that you’re made by God (and there aint no better brand name around, c’mon!). Simultaneously, our content also determines what and who we are. A vase is a vase because of what it holds. You are a temple of the Holy Spirit because of the Spirit living inside of you, which makes you a holy person! Everything and everyone that God makes has immeasurable worth. And to top it off, you’re holy! Now, that should make us remember to walk with our heads held high, our shoulders back, our chest out just a little and a smile across our faces assured that we are who GOD says we are and confident that we can do all that God has created us to do in this life and in this generation.
Girls, this week, as we go about your lives, I’m praying that we all get a fresh revelation of who we are as daughters of the most High God, the Creator of the Universe, the One who died for us, the One who set the stars in place for us, the One who sings over us, the One who fights for us, the One who says we are His! May we truly see ourselves the way God does and know our immeasurable worth.